Being a happier mom is something that sounds almost too easy on the outside. In theory at least, simply being a mom should make you the happiest person on the planet, and in some respects, it does. It can be incredibly rewarding to help your children grow into wonderful little people, but being a mom can also be equally frustrating, lonely, and thankless!! The next time you’re feeling beat down by all that comes with motherhood, try these easy ways to be a happier mom!!
Accept All the Help
It’s easy to insist that you can do this alone, but just because you’re strong enough to get through doesn’t mean you have to do it on your own! The happiest moms find their village and utilize it! When your mom asks if there is anything she can help with when she drops by for a visit, say yes. When your partner sees you doing a chore and says, “Don’t worry, I got that,” let them do it. There’s absolutely no shame in asking for help either, so make it a habit!
Plan Time Away from Your Child
Moms needs time away from their child(ren) to rejuvenate. You can’t pour from an empty cup, so plan some time away from your child. That might mean a coffee date with a friend one morning, a hike with your partner, or a spa visit all by yourself. Make sure to resist the urge to check-in while you’re away. I promise, they will all be just fine without you!
Happy moms spend less time stressing because they’re always one step ahead. Get organized and do it in a way that gets the whole family on board. Try hanging a wall calendar in the kitchen or creating a budget spreadsheet to share with your partner. You can also get your child in on the action by designating a “night before” cubby for them. This gives them a space to put out the next day’s essentials in advance! We actually never go to bed without the kids clothes for the morning picked out and sitting in the same spot so it’s easy to get everyone out the door quickly!
Plan One on One Dates
Special one on one time with you child is so important. Whether you’re a mom of one or more children or to a single child, that special time is a break from the everyday routine. Head out for a daytime adventure and visit the salon together, catch a movie, have lunch, or go exploring outdoors! You will really understand this one when you take time to do it! I promise this is a gam changer and it also makes you realize how easy one kid is! 😉
Set Goals with Your Partner
Couples who regularly connect and work toward mutual goals are the most successful, and moms can be happiest when they are in a secure and nurturing relationship. If you’re parenting with a partner, regularly set goals to work on together! Parenting solo? Don’t let that stop you. Create goals for yourself and experience the same fulfillment when you’re able to achieve them.
Create a Bad Day Tradition
Everyone has bad days, including your child, so it’s helpful to show them healthy ways to deal with those less than ideal days! Creating a bad day tradition also helps you be a happier mom because it allows you to take some of the load off temporarily. If your child knows that a bad day means popcorn, movies, and lots of snuggles, they learn when to lessen their expectations of you and how to constructively process their own bad day feelings! It’s okay to let go and let the bad happen because we all know those days are inevitable! (insert two flat tires in 2 days while I sip my coffee while Sway is napping,)
Practice Good Self-care
Happy moms practice good self-care and invest in themselves regularly. The self-care you need to be a happier mom just might be an extra long bath after the kids go to bed, or it might be strategies you implement to preserve your mental health like steering clear of drama on social media or eliminating toxic people from your life! Honestly this one is huge. If your mind isn’t healthy, time away won’t change anything. Evaluate what is making you stressed/unhappy and cut it out. I have done this over the last 2 years and it’s amazing!
Being a happier mom sometimes takes a conscious effort because let’s be real. This mom gig is hard, sometimes isolating, and an emotional roller coaster! Organization, taking time for yourself, and better divvying up domestic responsibilities are effectives steps toward becoming a happier mom and I think we can all agree….happy mom, happy everyone!